17 Tips to Literally Impress Everyone you meet
Impress Everyone you meet in your personal as well as your professional life with these small tips.It takes between 34 and 100 milliseconds to make a first impression. Here’s how to make it a good one!
1. First things first: Remember that most people you’re about to meet are just as uncomfortable as you are
Tons of people self-identify as shy — in fact, the numbers of shy people have grown in the past 20 years. “According to the shyness research, most of us feel uncomfortable walking into a room where we don’t know many people.”
Bottom line: You’re definitely not the only one who is afraid of this cocktail party, don’t go too rough, start with a general topic and make others comfortable around you and vice-versa
2. Shift your attitude before you walk into the room to focus on others and not on yourself
“A lot of the time we go into a social situation thinking, How can I make myself more comfortable?”
“Your attitude shift should be, What can I do to make other people comfortable around me?” See that first tip again for a reminder about why this attitude adjustment matters. Bonus points: “The person you’re talking to will become more comfortable, which makes you more comfortable!”
People make snap judgments about whether or not you’re a “trustworthy” person after only 34 milliseconds of looking at your face, according to research from Princeton University found that your facial expressions can influence those judgments.
“People judge smiling faces as trustworthy, and angry-looking faces as untrustworthy,”
4. Before you go somewhere new, know what you’re getting yourself into
Before you go do something where you know you’ll meet new people — whether that’s a job interview or your partner’s office holiday party — do your research.
•”Figure out who’s going to be there, what the theme of the event will be, that helps you customize your approach, dress for the occasion, and prepare for potential conversation starters.”
•”It’s a matter of knowing the context that you’re getting yourself into, and knowing the norms for the environment.” Mental preparation can put you on the right wavelength before you even walk in the door — and will minimize how much pre-planning or thinking you have to do.
•Dressing as formally or informally as other people are, will make you feel more comfortable and less self-conscious. This allows you to focus more on the conversations you’re having, rather than wonder if people are judging you for wearing a T-shirt to a formal event.
5. Prepare a seven- to nine-second introduction about yourself
“This is NOT the 15- to 30-second networking thing.” Rather, it’s a warm introduction, followed by one or two statements about yourself. The idea is to give the other person something that they can comment on to get the conversation going.
You must express your relationship to the one you meet, and making an observation that the person can ask questions about or add their own observations to.
For instance, something I could have said at my brother’s recent graduation: “Hi, it’s so nice to meet you! I’m Sara, Jimmy’s sister. I’m from New York, and it’s been great to explore Chicago this weekend.”
6. Find a more interesting way to talk about what you do
The standard way, when you introduce yourself by saying your name and your job. The problem with that is unless you do something extremely interesting, it’s not going to drive conversation forward. You need to give the person more information you’re for better positive response and to carry on the conversation.
Instead of stating your job title and company, give a more general and even mysterious statement about what you do — like by stating the benefit of your job. “When you give them the benefit of what you do, you give them the opportunity to ask questions,” For example: If you’re a textbook salesperson you can say you give kids the tools they need to learn.
And if this sounds too embarrassing, you can always stick with your job title and company as long as you add an extra line in there describing some unusual element of your day-to-day. For example: “I’m a health editor at Google, and I spend as much time talking to doctors as I do hunting for the perfect GIF.”
7. Learn these four little magic words: “And how about you?”
So you’ve just explained the benefit of your job, and that resulted in some good chit-chat for a minute or so. Instead of turning to the person and saying, “And what do you do?” leave it a lot more open-ended.
“The four magic words are: And how about you?”- That invites them to tell you about themselves, and to go in the direction they’re most excited to go in.
The beauty of this language is that it helps you avoid potential awkwardness — like if you’re talking to someone who’s unemployed, or who hates their job but would love to talk about their hobbies, or who works in an unpaid capacity. Asking them to talk about themselves is much kinder than categorizing them into a conversation about how they currently make money (or don’t).
8. Wear something that makes you feel awesome — it’ll make you more approachable
“Wear clothes that make you feel good, because you’ll have more confidence,” Comfort is the key!
“If I’m wearing shoes that hurt my feet, I’ll be pain — that’s unapproachable.”
9. Give compliments that encourage conversation
Don’t just tell someone you love her shoes. Instead, say that you love them, they’re fantastic, and you’ve been looking for a pair just like them — where did she get them? When you’re making an observation, guide your observation with a question or a statement that invites them to give you a bit more.
10. When in doubt, talk about food
After all, everyone eats. And most people like talking about it. “They talk about recipes, they talk about diets, they talk about restaurants.” An easy way to talk about food? Strike up conversations with people at the buffet table. As simple as that.
11. Talk to the person who is alone
“The one person that’s very easy to talk to is the person standing alone, they might be shyer than you. And they’re most likely going to be so relieved that someone’s found them. When you approach someone to talk to, what you’re inherently saying is, ‘You look interesting, you look smart.'” And that will make them feel great and appreciate your kindness.
12. Join groups of three or more, especially if they look like they’re having fun
“A group of three or more people is typically more open to a new person than just two people having a conversation.”
When it’s three or more people, they’re not necessarily talking about something personal. When it’s just two people, an unexpected third can feel like a crowd.
13. Find an equal balance between making observations, asking questions, and revealing things about yourself
This balance is the key to being a great conversationalist.
•”If you’re always observing, you’re probably expressing one’s opinion.”
•”If you’re always asking questions, you can come across as a Troublemaker or a gossip guy.”
•”If you’re always revealing things about yourself, you’re going to share too much information.”
The magic is in the mix.
Here are examples of each type of statement, in case it helps:
Observation: Wow, this hotel has recently been renovated and it looks gorgeous!
Question: Do you remember what this place used to look like?
Revelation: I was last here a year ago, before they fixed it up.
14. When you’re standing in a circle of people, notice if someone is trying to join in — take a half-step backward to open the circle up
If you include someone that’s in on the wants to join in, it’s a smart thing to do, it’s savvy, and it’s nice. You’ll make a great impression on that person, and on the other people in the circle.
15. Be nice to everyone
Let’s say you’re at a work or networking event, and a lot of people brought their spouses or children or guests. Your ultimate motive might be to rub shoulders with people who could be good connections at work, but it’s important to pay attention to everyone.
Be nice to the guests, the spouses, and the children of the people who might be in the room with you.
Just think about it, “If I work with this woman and her spouse is standing there and I’m ignoring that person, that’s not smart, that’s not nice, and that doesn’t make a good first impression.” Quite the opposite, in fact.
16. When you’re talking to someone, give them your full attention
The key to making a great impression is really listening when you’re talking to someone. That means don’t zone out, check your phone, or look over their shoulder or past their head to see if you can find someone else in the room who you might prefer talking to.
Paying attention and being fully involved in the conversation has benefits beyond not being a jerk. For starters, it might help make the conversation flow more easily.
People tell you what they want to talk about, if you listen, but if you’re planning your grocery list in your head, you’re going to miss picking up on small cues that they’re excited, or bored.
17. Learn to make a graceful exit from a conversation
Think smart, don’t just run away.
– Interrupt yourself, not them.
– Smile warmly, tell them what a pleasure it’s been to talk to them about [fill in the blank… whatever it was you were talking about], and that you could just take control of their time all night.
– Say, “But if you’ll excuse me, I need to…” And then offer an excuse. You can try:
..I need to-
•..catch up with my friend from college over there.
•..grab a bite to eat; those cookies are calling my name.
•..go help my husband take care of the kid.
•..go thank the hostess.
You may also want to offer your hand for a handshake, which most people understand to mean, “It was nice meeting you, good-bye.”
The point is to leave a conversation knowing that you made someone feel better because they’ve talked to you. Making it clear that you were paying attention, enjoyed the conversation, and are leaving for a reason.
We hope you won’t face the meet up problem again!
Wishing you all the best and impress everyone you meet by applying these tips.Just make sure you remember them
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